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Essays Tagged: Dating



Choosing A Master/Mistress by TorqueDom
Filed in: relationships, dominance, dating

Pitfalls of overanxious peoples and their search for the One

Attracting and Keeping a Partner by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, dating

This is kind of an odd thing, I'm not really people savvy - but then again if I can find people and keep one for as long as I have, anyone should be able to. For the record though, I think she should have more credit for the longevity :). The following are solely from my observations and experiences.

Dating in the Lifestyle by luna[KM]
Filed in: d/s, dating

How we approach a Lifestyle date vs. a traditional date is what affects the way we find a partner.

The Process Of Selection by Master Eso
Filed in: relationships, dominance, d/s, dating

As unromantically as it sounds, the slave is initially the only one who can properly judge if she can meet, fulfill and serve a Masters requirements, needs and wants, and match it against her own desires.

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules by Screamer
Filed in: health and safety, online, dating

For as long as I've been into BDSM, Safety has been one of my biggest issues and concerns. Rather that was being a safecall for someone, or simply passing out safety info to new people, I worked rather long and hard at it. When it got to be too much for me, I sat down and wrote four separate safety 'posts' or 'classes', that I distributed, and continue to distribute online. These postings have been passed down from person to person since I wrote them last year, so you may have seen them before. But even if you have, please re-read them.

Finding a Dominant Woman by Author Unknown
Filed in: relationships, d/s, dating

Many newcomers are anxious to meet and get close to a FemDom (aka female dominant). Quite a number make common mistakes. One grammatical mistake quickly comes to mind: using the word "dominate&qu[...]