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On becoming 'Real' by Bluedeacon
Filed in: inspirational, general knowledge, d/s
Morning, all! I wanted to share something different with the group this morning. From time to time I've seen posts on and offlist about how a person doesn't yet feel like a sub/slave, or a dom/master[...]
Power Exchange - Strong Women (in Charge/Control) Giving Power by Gev
Filed in: control, surrender, power exchange, powerful women
The topic (or dichotomy) of a Powerful Woman engaging in a power exchange, has been of great interest to me. Why would a woman, who is normally in control of their life, who is assertive, and who is s[...]
Afternoon Tea 2: What will you serve, and how to serve it? by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol
Now that the basics have been covered lets move on to the invitation, menu and serving of a proper Afternoon tea. Invitations Invitations should be sent 10 to 14 days in advance, this should ensure [...]
The D/s Beatitudes by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational, d/s
Blessed are the Dominants,whose willingness to exercise responsibility for a submissive is the foundation of our Lifestyle. Blessed is the submissive, whose only true joy and desire is to serve. Ble[...]
Understanding...Feminine Hygiene by raven
Filed in: health and safety
Vaginal wetness and odor are normal and all women have to contend with it. My goal with this essay is to educate you on what the most common causes are. Give you some guidelines on how to deal with it[...]
Just Wait Till Your Father Gets Home: Telling Your Family by Norische
Filed in: leather, lifestyle, outting
“So what are you, some kind of Satanist, or what?” This was one of the first things my sister said when she walked into my house. It had been almost a year since I had seen my sister, she[...]
Speech Training 2: How To Apologize by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
One slave I was training stated quite blatantly that she would not apologize when told to do so, because she felt she gad done nothing wrong. Whether or not she had done something wrong was irrelevant[...]
Floggers: Types and Usage by mysteria
Filed in: toys, flogging, play
I remember when I saw my first flogger, a long suede black one, hanging on a wall in a friends house. I picked it up playfully swinging it in a swirl and asked "What's this thing? Some s[...]
Emotional Safety by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, health and safety
One of the elements of a good relationship that many people either overlook or are unaware of, is emotional safety, what it entails, and how to create it. My hope here is to explore first what it is w[...]
Just Getting Started : Tips for Dungeon Monitors by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: dungeon monitors, play parties, tips
For many years now, play parties have had special people fill the role of "dungeon monitors" -- or DMs for short These people are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied[...]
Sub Drop by Toya
Filed in: submission, endorphins, crash, drop, euphoric sensations
When Master and I were still doing the long distance thing, one of the most important things I had to learn to cope with was sub drop. Master would come up for a weekend, we would have two or three da[...]
Dating in the Lifestyle by luna[KM]
Filed in: d/s, dating
It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone. I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when convers[...]
Some Facts about SM by Author Unknown
Filed in: general knowledge, sm
S/M is not an aberration. S/M is a sexual orientation that is found in a significant percentage of the population. Surveys have listed S/M behavior by as much as 7 to 14 % of the population, with inte[...]
Mystique De Lavage: The Basics of Enemas by Norische
Filed in: how-to, enemas
What is an Enema? An enema is the procedure of introducing liquids into the bowel via the anus. Enemas can be carried out for medical reasons, as part of alternative therapies, and also for erotic pu[...]
Orientation 1: Service by Norische
Filed in: training
Service is one of the most primary, the most basic of terms within the BDSM realm. Service can loosely be defined as an act or work done by one individual to the benefit another, but what does service[...]
Hey I'm Putting You In Bondage, Tonight(carol) by Unknown
Filed in: humor
Oh, you better not pout, You better not cry, You better not shout, I'm telling you why, I'm putting you in bondage, tonight. I'm getting out ropes, Checking them twice Because you have been Naughty b[...]
Short Jokes by Various
Filed in: humor
Sue and Sally meet at their 30th class reunion, and they haven't seen each other since graduation. They begin to talk and bring each other up to date. The conversation covers their husbands, their chi[...]
Spiders, Snakes, and Single Tails: Dealing with Fears and Phobias by Norische
Filed in: health and safety, general knowledge, fear
The word phobia originated from the Greek god Phobos. When in battle the Greek army would call on Phobos to assist them, he would inflict the apposing army with irrational, intense fears, fears like&h[...]
Shocking! Absolutely Shocking!: Part V - The Advanced Techniques For The Violet Wand by Norische
Filed in: how-to, electroplay, play
I begin with a small admonition that anything that I describe within this article is for educational purposes only. Application of electricity in any form to a human body does involve risk, and hence [...]
A Beginners Guide to Munches by Stu
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge, munches
This document may be copied only in it's entirety, including this header and the e-mail address at the bottom. It must not be edited or altered in any way. If you have comments/suggestions, please let[...]
Attracting and Keeping a Partner by Bluedeacon
Filed in: relationships, dating
This is kind of an odd thing, I'm not really people savvy - but then again if I can find people and keep one for as long as I have, anyone should be able to. For the record though, I think she should [...]
Masturbation by Tamar Love
Filed in: how-to, sex
Masturbation used to be an utterly taboo subject. We were told touching ourselves was dirty and wrong, that if we did it we'd go crazy or grow hair on our palms. If these lies were spread to keep us f[...]
Shocking! Absolutely Shocking!: Part IV - Techniques For The Violet Wand by Norische
Filed in: how-to, electroplay, play
The thin sheen of sweat on her body glistened as she stood there shivering in anticipation. With the blindfold on she could not see the soft glow of the violet wand reflecting off her glistening body,[...]
Vanilla-isms: Causes and Cures by Lady Green
Filed in: speech, vanilla
The psychotherapeutic establishment is still struggling to understand the subset of sexual activity characterized by hysterical insistence on the appearance of complete equality at all times, as well [...]
An Interesting View of Sadomachism by Donald L Miesen
Filed in: humor, sm, sadomasochism
SM: The Erotic Game SM: The Erotic Minority SM: The Erotic Controversy SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself int[...]
Getting Freaky With It: Fetishes, Paraphilias, and Just Plain Freaky by Norische
Filed in: fetish
Fetish The first thing that must be discussed is what exactly is a fetish. In psychiatry a fetish is an object, action or bodily part whose real or fantasized presence is psychologically necessary fo[...]
Orientation 4: Obedience by Norische
Filed in: training
Obedience is a gray area within an owner/slave relationship. To some owners obedience is blind; a slave has no place to question the command of the owner under any circumstances. To me obedience is un[...]
Afternoon Tea 3: Recipes: From Traditional to Exotic by Norische
Filed in: how-to, ritual, etiquette, service, protocol
There are many excellent recipes out there that are completely acceptable when it comes to a traditional British Afternoon Tea; the following are just a few suggestions that one might consider. While [...]
Cleaning Toys by Author Unknown
Filed in: toys
You'll need these things to clean your toys: * soap and hot water * one part household bleach to nine parts water * 10% hydrogen peroxide solution What if you're using a toy on someone and[...]
Dealing with Law Enforcement at Your Door by Sir Bamm!
Filed in: how-to, health and safety, legal
Hopefully the time will never come that this happens to you: You?re in the middle of a play party, your guests are in various states of undress, your friends are beating and being beaten and there?s a[...]
Feminisim & Submission by Toya
Filed in: relationships, submission, feminism, feminist movement, independent woman
Writing an article on submission and feminism was a huge challenge to me. Until a few years ago I had never really come into contact with the feminist movement; for the most part the feminist movement[...]
The Cane by John Bomberger
Filed in: toys, caning
The cane is an excellent instrument for use in administering corporal punishment. A cane is made from rattan and is normally 30 - 36 inches in length and comes in various diameters ranging from 1/4 t[...]
A submissive woman is actually a treasured jewel by Freya
Filed in: submission, love, experience
Although I do work outside of the home I still believe in the logic above. I work because Master insists I do. Not for the money, although it does help as raising children is not cheap, but for what h[...]
Online BDSM Dictionary by Author Unknown
Filed in: online, definitions
:::Thwack:::The noise made by the keys as they are tapped to spell out 'whip'. :::Kneeling quietly:::What subs post to remind their Masters or Mistresses that they are still online. :::12" shaft [...]
Orientation 3: Attitude by Norische
Filed in: training
Attitude is another one of the corner stones that serve as a good foundation for any slave. Remember that the attitude of the slave can very well set the attitude of the house, and hence the atmospher[...]
Defining Abuse in Absolute and Total Power Exchange by Master Eso
Filed in: d/s, tpe, abuse
The problems with the definition of abuse within an Absolute and Total Power Exchange commitment/relationship is very clear. Abuse is completely subjective. Everyone has different pe[...]
Speech Training 12: Language Limitations - Vulgar or Disrespectful Language by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
I will simply state that most Owners prefer that vulgar or socially inappropriate language be illuminated from the common vocabulary of the slave. I find that it is rare that an owner enjoys a slave t[...]
Ten Tips For The Novice, Single, Heterosexual Submissive Woman by Jay Wiseman
Filed in: submission, fantasies, tips, women
Let me guess. You're a woman, you're heterosexual, and you keep having strange, disturbing, recurring, and intense fantasies of a powerful, masterful man having his way with you. Perhaps he tears off[...]
The Good Wife Guide by Unknown
Filed in: good wife, guide, 50's household
Be a good wife. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready for his return from work. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him a[...]
Speech Training 6: Affirmative Answers by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
When a slave gives an affirmative answer he or she can be as simple or as elaborate as the Owner wishes. Saying "yes" can be done is a vast array of different ways. For example if the Owner[...]
Knights vs. Gods by Master Eso
Filed in: dominance, definitions
Naturally, for most slaves and submissives it is a most desirable, pleasing and romantic thought and wish to find and serve ones “Knight in Shining Armor”. And finding on[...]
Speech Training 8: Asking A Question by Norische
Filed in: training, speech
A slave must never be afraid to ask a question; however, to ask a question in an inappropriate manner is not to be tolerated. The first thing that a slave must understand is that many Owners do not a[...]
The Teacup by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
A couple vacationing in Europe went strolling down a little street and saw a quaint little gift shop with a beautiful teacup in the window. The lady collected teacups and she wanted this one for her c[...]
Hot Wax by Lady Gwyneth Rose
Filed in: how-to, wax play
Ahhh, hot candlewax... hot wax... even the sibilant sound as it rolls off the tongue is deliciously decadent... hot waxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxsssssssssssss... much as the sound of the droplets hitting the f[...]
Slavery and Safewords by Master Eso
Filed in: slavery, safe words
As there is often the mentioning about the use of safewords, I thought it would be a good time to share my personal view on safewords. Lets first determine what a safeword actually is. A saf[...]
Presentation 1: Appearance by Norische
Filed in: training
The first point that should be made about a slave's appearance is that the slave is always a direct reflection of the Owner. While the Owner ordains the general appearance of the slave, the slave mus[...]
Kegels by Mistress Steel
Filed in: sex
Many forms of BDSM scening involve or may involve activity to the pelvis, vagina and anus. Since a great number of women entering the lifestyle have had children it is not uncommon for many women to h[...]
Slogans and Signature Lines by Unknown
Filed in: humor
Build a thousand bridges in your lifetime, but suck one dick, are you known forever as the bridge builder? Violet wands. They're everywhere you expect them to be. --Visa They're always after me lil [...]
Jingle Belles by Unknown
Filed in: humor
Dashing through the house In a corset and high heels Hands tied behind our backs How naughty we do feel! Belles in bondage tight Make our spirits bright What fun it is to tie and gag A naughty bitch [...]
The Dominant's First Aid Kit by SAADE
Filed in: dominance, health and safety, play
This material is the exclusive property of SAADE and may be reproduced and shared if accompanied with this notice at the top of the document. Assemble one first aid kit for your home[...]
